I oftentimes hear their silence saying “I wish I were a boy…! I wish I could be taken as an achiever just like boys…! I wish I could be granted opportunities as well…! I wish I could have big muscles like boys just to defend myself when troubled!” But why? Because of many kinds of harassment, they face mainly sexual harassment, from an early age till late.
They didn’t choose their gender and yet many of them live a large amount of time regretting it. But why? Because, in many cultures, from an early age, they are not even allowed to play just like boys. They are told to remain silent as much as they can even when they need at least a shoulder to cry on. They are told to have an ever dependent mindset even on things they can afford on their own. Not because they like it but simply because they are born girls and become forced to live such a pre-conditioned lifestyle.
Do I mean that boys are the luckiest on earth? Of course no! But simply, in many cultures, they are unjustly favored above girls. History records many girls who have been more successful than boys. However, success should not be pre-conceived for boys automatically. Success in life requires maximizing all the potentials that God invested in everyone for a goal of blessing others. This has nothing to do with gender.
However, many girls are hindered in their path to success even at an early age while they have potentials already-invested in themselves as well. Some are verbally harassed when they start working on their dreams. Some are told, “You can’t do it on your own!” Others face mental tortures from their ‘uninformed’ parents when they are told harsh words like, “Why do you want to behave like you don’t know your gender?”
Many of them have deeply hidden pains and they just wait for a time of the day when they are alone to cry in their closets. Some of them can’t achieve more because they face stumbling blocks in their path of success. The stumbling blocks may be mind-handicapped bosses who want to promote them as long as they have sex with them. Some of them are told they can’t achieve anything until they allow their bodies to be immorally touched or even selling their virginity for success! Words are not enough to describe the pain they go through just because they are girls!
Many of them live with deep scars caused by their fellow humans of the opposite sex. Some have suicidal thoughts because they can’t bear those pain-filled scars anymore. Others cry in their closets as they remember all the miseries they encounter on a daily basis and wish they were boys. Others feel empty and shattered just because of the hard-to-tell stories of their lives darkened by those who were supposed to be their shield and support namely boyfriends, husbands, coaches, mentors, lecturers, spiritual leaders, etc.
The fact that this message is shared here by a male implies that there is still hope of a mindset shift toward them, females! It is time for us—boys and men—to acknowledge the fact that we can play a tremendous role in helping females achieve their life dreams as well. It is our time to support them and help them see their light-filled horizons to reach.
It is our time to stop seeing them as for-sex objects or toys to play with any time we want. It is our time to love them not for sex but genuinely for who they are. It is our time to stop ‘faking love’ with them while we unexpectedly make them mothers and yet fail to be the fathers of our kids. It is our time to remind them that they are worthy of our genuine love, support and encouragement. It is our time to help them be proud of their gender and potentials invested in them. It is our time to remember that they can excel in their projects using their God-given skills on their own!
Above all, it is our time to carry them in our prayers and bless their path of success with words of hope and courage. It is our time to ask God to make them who He wants them to be in full!
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